Sunday, March 22, 2015

“Meet-the-Expert” session on 15th March, 2015 (Sunday)

Positive Parenting programme has collaborated with Borders Malaysia for a “Meet-the-Expert session” to establish more varied avenue enabling young parents, to interact closely with experts and seek credible parenting and child health related information. As such, to kick-start this collaboration, they had organised the 1st “Meet-the-Expert” session on 15th March, 2015 (Sunday).

Ms Selina Ding, a clinical psychologist and educational psychologist from Ding Child Psychology Centre has presented a topic which titled " How to Enhance Self-Esteem in Children".

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

"Wonder Years" of Early Childhood

There will be a public forum organised by Q-dees on 19th October 2014 at 10am-1pm. My topic will be focusing on what is play and why play is important. Registration fee is RM20 and you can register at any of the participating clinic including Ding Child Psychology Centre.

Monday, December 30, 2013

Minors on the Catwalk

My recent interview published in Sunday Life & Times, News Straits Times on Dec 1, 2013

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Why do children cheat in exam?

I notice that the trend of children cheating in Malaysia is consistent with the reported data in the U.S.

Clinical psychologists and other educational experts found that grades are more important than learning—it is linked to higher rates of cheating. Because children constantly receive messages that they are good when they have achieved something, they cheat to win as they want to be the best!

Children may cheat in exam to keep up with their peers or to please parents or teachers. Other children start feeling pressured by sports, co-curriculum activies and skills enrichment programs that they have been left with little time for study.

Some parents get stressed up, consequently, they become too involved in their children's homework and school activities. Children are enrolled in abundance of tutions in Malaysia. Some schools have prolonged learning period till very late afternoon. In fact, apart being 'programmed' by their parents, the children themselves request for tuitions due to stiff competitions.

Clinically, children appear fatigue, irritable and have fear, which can lead to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.

To my surprise, children with poor study skills or learning disabilities are especially vulnerable; poor impulse control is linked with a higher readiness to cheat, says 2010 study of 189 children in the Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology.

Peer pressure to cheat is huge. If your classmate asks for answers and don't share them, it can be a major offense among the kids.   According to a 2012 survey of 23,000 high-school students by the Josephson Institute of Ethics, in Los Angeles, cheating rates rise through middle school and by high school, 51% of students admit to cheating on a test in the past year, and 74% say they have copied another student's homework.    This figure is worrisome, what do these figures imply- our future generation?

This is totally not a healthy phenomenon! Definitely, it's the talking topic in child clinical psychology currently.

Friday, March 15, 2013

School Refusal

It has been a busy week .....

I have received many school refusal cases especially  after the Chinese New Year school holiday.

Common reasons of not wanting to go to schools among Malaysian children that I have encountered are peers rejection, homework pressure, overly protective  or neglect parenting, anxious-shy personality, low self-esteem, learning disorders, and inept coping skills. Sometimes it also includes complaints about the disturbances from the spirits.

Children often manifest their fear and worries the night before going to school the next day. Getting ready to go to school is really a struggle.

My treatment approach often involves the following: addressing the learning and academic issues, parent work and/or filial therapy cum behavior therapy, expressive art therapy or play therapy, social skills training and problem solving skills.

I wish to highlight that , it is hard to get suitable social skills training programs for children in Kuala Lumpur, and at large in Malaysia. While most commercialized social skills programs are too 'advanced' for children with special needs or psychology issues, other social skills  programs offer by NGOs are too simple for these children. Almost close to none that the public or private schools provide formal social skills training. As such, the burdens fall back on parents' shoulders to form an appropriate peer group for their children. Psychologists in Malaysia, sometimes, are also at their ends' wits to recommend a suitable social skills program.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

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Monday, October 15, 2012

Last Sunday I was invited by Bella Weekend NTV7 to share my views on 'Kids and Handphones'. What are the psychological impact with and without handphones? It is still debatable.

You may click on if you are interested to know more.

I find that there are very good reasons for taking either position, so each family will have to weigh up pros and cons and arrive at their own decision.

The Pros:

a. parents can contact their kids, to ensure their safety and knows their whereabouts
b. your kids can stay connected in their social network, in which this is indeed the way that our tech-savvy young generation communicates
b. it is a form of social status and way towards independence
c. it provides fun and entertainment

The Cons:

a. it is costly for some parents
b. it causes distraction and obsession
c. it decreases face-to-face interaction  
d. it is found to have medical harmful side-effects
e. and many more, never ending problems kids with handphones!

It is obvious that many parents oppose than agree to give a handphone to their young kids.

In Malaysia, some schools allow children are allowed to bring handphones but they cannot use them during school hours. In some countries, handphones are totally banned in schools. In Europe, however, handphones are used widely as it is an important mean of communication between teachers and students.

Children in big cities like Kuala Lumpur and other parts of Klang Valley have more exposure and choices compare to children from remote 'kampung' areas. But does it mean city boys and girls will give more problems?

Of course eventually your child will own a phone, it is just a question of at what age.  Teach responsibility. Maturity will determine at what age your kid should own a handphone. Do not forget good parent work as well. Technology can never replace good parenting.